Well we are going through the teenager phase! She is 17 and now that we have passed her one year anniversary here with us the "honeymoon" phase is OVER!
She is rebelling in her own quiet way. She is giving the dirty looks, the pouting when given constructive critiquing, and writing things about me in her diary... Yes I have broken the carnal rule of parenthood. I read her diary. I knew she was keeping things from me and I couldn't seem to coax it out of her so I read it..
I was right she was keeping something from me, she thinks she is in love with my brother... First of all she is not biologically related to him and is apparently not seeing me as her mother so she doesn't see any reason why they can't have a relationship. Second of all he is the only guy other than Ernie(her brother, my husband) to give her the kind of attention she thinks she wants from a male, in the has year. She is shy and more into chatting with men twice her age online ( which I put a stop too).
She is seeing me as her enemy and I'm not sure why... Other than the fact that she made the comment that I was a stupid f***ing B***H and that I needed to keep my F***ing mouth shut when it came to talking to her about men and weight.. And that I had no room to discuss loosing weight with her because I am a fat cow. Well I'm not thin but I will say this... She is the one who asked me to help her loose weight and I have been the one to encourage her to exercise and then she gets all mad at me because I want her to be resposible for her own actions.
She called me all this because We had told her that she need to learn how to use our public transportation system here in the city. She was mad because I admitted that I had never used it before, even though I have only lived here for 2 1/2 years and Have always driven myself, but when you're 17 and don't drive and want to go places it doesn't hurt you to learn how to ride a bus.
I am also afraid she may be taking advise about things from someone I don't really trust to give advise to her. I know this person and I just can't bring myself to ask them not to be giving Elise advise in the area of sex and dating, or even, drinking and drugs. I just know that at one time she told me everything and it was great. She trusted me and I could believe her but I just don't believe her like I used to ... I know she has lied to me and eventhough she says that she is telling me the truth about some other things I know she isn't ...
And there are so many other things that I don't even know where to begin... Like laziness, sarcasm, being hateful, mood swings. The list goes on!!!
I know that this is probably me just trying not to turn out like my mom, but I feel like I'm going crazy... I feel like this is affecting my marriage, he won't deal with her. He leaves it to me until I tell him if he doesn't say something I'm just going to take a belt to her and get it over with ... Then he will talk to her and then she is resentful toward me. She tells me she loves me and for the last 8 months I was mommy, but now I'm just Gidgit again and well I just really don't know what to do....
Any advise???? I need prayers, I can't loose my family..
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