I've Been Thinking....

Maybe I am crazy..

They say the defination of insanity is doing the same thing over and over each time expecting different results. THAT'S ME! Well Kind of!

I mean I have always been someone who tries to fix thing/ people. When someone comes to me with a problem they ask for my advise or my help. So I tell it like I see it.

If you come to me with a problem and I have good idea about hte situation you can expect that I will tell you exactly how I feel or what I think about the situation. Don't come to me if you are wanting someone to tell you that you are right in everything you do and that you have done nothing wrong.
For instance.... I know someone who cheated on her spouse and got pregnant by the other man. She expected me to tell her that because her spouse cheated on her that it was okay for her to do the same thing. WRONG!!! I am not going to tell her that!

I have been in that EXACT situation. My first husband cheated on me and in turn when I discovered this I "payed" him back by doing the same thing! a few months later I discovered I was pregnant. When I went to tell the man I was pregnant there was a non related fight and we never spoke again.. I miscarried a few weeks later and was all alone.

I kept that secret for over 10 years. I am so very glad that I finally came cleanto my spouse because it has brought us closer.

I once had a therapit who informed me that I expect too much out of people. I still have not quite figured that one out!
So I expect adult to behave as adults and to take responsibility for their actions! Are we NOT supposed to do that???

I thought the WHOLE point of being a grown up was being responsible! Of course I know many, many, many people who are incapable of being responsible and they will be social rejects for the rest of their lives because they refuse to grow up and take responsibility for their actions much less for other!

I guess I am one of those people who has always felt "grown up" I mean I had a childhood and I partied as teenager but I also took hold of my responsibilities and became a responsible adult when the time came. which for me was at a very early age. I was married for the first time at 17.
I was devoreced by 19 and I married my husband a month before my 21st birthday.

We have been married 10 years this year and we have had our share of struggles but I am trying to find a happy medium. We moved to get a fresh start and learn to be a couple again.

Wetried to help a friend and we got screwe twice! THAT WON'T HAPPEN AGAIN!
now we are doing what needs to be done for us!

okay i've been rambling for way to long now!

~G~