Several years ago I was told that I most likely would never conceive. Ernie and I after much prayer and talking decided that we felt adoption was what God had planned for us.
We started the process and discovered it was a long hard road!
Now anyone who has read my blog will know that we have struggled and walked a very very long road to get to where we are.
We were not able to legally adopt our oldest, (yet she is still our daughter), and The baby was not a foster adopt but she is still an adopted child.
None the less I believe that God calls those of us who choose to adopt. I honestly believe that He created mothers like myself who can not bare children of their own with hearts big and loving enough to love a child not created in their womb! There are also those mothers that CAN give birth yet are given hearts to adopt children and become a mother to those blessed little one's who's mothers can not parent them.
If you are a mom who has chosen this path, whether you feel called to it or it was just something you thought was an option for you I want to say thank you. You have been given an especially hard task. Yes dad's I KNOW and acknowledge that it's not a walk in the park for you either.. However us mom's have it just a bit harder. We have to bring this strange child into our home, feed it , clothe it, care for it and learn to love it. For some the Love comes instantly and yet for other mom's it's harder to love this little-or big- person who has come to be our child. We may have kids with shady pasts' and that can make them harder to love. Never the less as mother's we are called to love our families and take care of them because God made us that way.
I am posting today because of a pressing matter that has been on my heart. Families that bring children into their homes to adopt them and then for whatever reason send them back. Now I know that if an adoptive child is putting other family members in harms way that something must be done. But is it truly right to disrupt and adoption because of it. Can't you prove to that child that you love them by getting them the help they need and making good on your commitment to adopt them?
After all are these children not in our homes calling us mom and dad?
Have these children not been through enough in their young lives that to loose multiple sets of parents make them feel like they are the ones who are bad? It's not their fault that they were place in foster care. In fact 98% of children in Foster care are there because of some sort of neglect or abuse.
We have to take a stand for the children!!! If you are an adoptive or foster parent MAKE GOOD ON YOUR COMMITMENT! HELP THESE KIDS FIND FOREVER FAMILIES AND LOVE THEM UNCONDITIONALLY!!!
AS PARENTS ARE WE NOT SUPPOSED TO LOVE ALL OUR CHILDREN UNCONDITIONALLY?!?!?!?
IF YOU HAD GIVEN BIRTH TO A CHILD THAT WAS VIOLENT OR HAD A MENTAL CHALLENGE WOULD YOU JUST TOSS HIM/HER AWAY?
PLEASE THINK ABOUT THIS!!!
1 comment:
I'm a foster mom. I have a 21 yr. old daughter that came to me from the foster care system when she was 14 yrs. old. I love her very much but was she ever a handfull!!! As a foster mom, I saw lots of kids who had been adopted but it didn't work out. I had some of these kids in my home. After seeing some of their extreme behaviors (One girl tried to poison her mom, another made false allegations, another was a predator who like to start fires)I learned not to judge the adoptive parents. There are limits to what a person can handle especially if there are other children in the home who are being affected. In many cases, the kids had received every type of help available and some were still receiving treatment. My point is that sometimes the adoptive home isn't a good fit for the child or the parents. It's sad but some of these kids are seriously damaged to the point where they can't be left in the home.
However, I do applaud you on your commitment to protecting and nurturing children.
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