MADNESS!

I think there comes a time in our lives when we have to stand up for ourselves! I am speaking from experience here ( or lack thereof).
I know that as a married woman I should be able to express my self when it comes to telling certain people to mind their own business and stay out of mine. I just really have trouble doing that with ONE certain person.

I don't know why I let her get to me but I do . I have even been told that I am putting her feelings over that of my spouse. I really don't know what to do. I don't want to make him feel like I don't love him or value him! I don't want him to feel like I "take her side" on everything. They get into dumb fights and I try to stay out of it.
Like tonight, she came over and brought the man she has been talking to on the phone, whom she met on the internet, knowing that Ernie didn't want him to know anything about us. She didn't call and ask us if it were okay she just brought him over. No wait she did call and say she was coming over but she DID NOT tell me anything about this man!

It didn't really bother me, I guess because I have excepted that she will never change. But it really, really , really, bothers Ernie. I don't know what to do. She doesn't take anything serious! She makes everything sound like a joke. I am so tired of the laughing at everything. I don't know how to tell her that she is driving a wedge between my husband and me. I don't want to lose either my husband or her but I can't choose. At least I don't feel like I should have to. I feel like it will one day come down to that. He is going to tell me "it's me or her" and I know I couldn't handle that!
I really don't know what to do! I guess I just need to be in some serious prayer about this. After all She is a very important person in my life and he is my husband. I LOVE them both, just differently. I am quickly loosing respect for her, and afraid of him. Well not like physically afraid, just afraid that he will get fed up and will tell her to get lost and I'll loose her and loose his respect and love.

I don't know!!!!!!!! I just know it is night's like this that I DON'T SLEEP!